Saturday, November 13, 2010

Speak Life!

I was shopping a few weeks ago at a new store that recently opened, and as I was browsing around, I happened to notice a lady that was near by. We were both looking at the same item, and I smiled and said hello. We got to chatting a bit, and she began to tell me how her husband is sick with various illnesses, and cancer was one of them. She explained that it doesn't look very good. I told her how sorry I was to hear of this, and how I will pray that all goes well. What really amazed me was her response. She looked at me so cheerfully and said, "I am going to be thankful for the good times we had together." I thought how awesome it was for this lady to choose to look on the bright side of a situation that may possibly result in the death of her husband.

Her attitude was a reminder to me of how we need to speak life to our circumstances no matter how mild or extreme they may be. I understand how hard that can be, especially when you're upset. There was an issue I had to deal with 2 weeks ago, and I didn't feel like being positive because this particular issue was not going to go my way. I was frustrated and I wanted to say negative things, but I began to realize that some of the things I wanted to say were completely out of anger and not what I really meant. Before I said another word, I stopped and thought about how it honors God when we speak in faith, especially during the times of turmoil. What better way to show God how we trust Him when we can praise Him in the midst of our troubles. That's what I chose to do this time - again, not that it was easy. I can clearly remember tears filling my eyes as I decided to go against how I was feeling by choosing to speak in faith. I started by speaking out loud what I knew was true according to God's Word, the scriptures I know and claim for my life. It's great if you have scriptures that you can speak out loud, but even something simple like saying, "I may be hurting and struggling right now, but I am not always going to be because I will get through this" is fine. Something that simple can begin to change your whole outlook because when you speak positive you are actually beginning to change your mind, even if you don't feel anything at first. I can honestly say that after that night, I was not tormented again with negativity for that particular issue. My feelings caught up with what I was saying, and I felt completely free from the bondage of anger.

Proverbs 18:21 tells us that the power of life and death is in the tongue. I firmly believe that our words have power, and that we can avoid emotional meltdowns by speaking positive. I have met people that will go through hardships and they say,"Oh, well that's my luck so no wonder this happened to me." I think to myself you can't be serious! What can one do with an attitude like that? These people set themselves up for disappointments because they already subliminally decided that nothing good can ever happen to them. Then there are those, like the lady I met, that speaks life. She is fully aware that she may lose her husband and instead of being bitter, she is choosing to see the good by reflecting on the blessings she has been given so far. I am sure she has her moments of grief, and rightfully so, but what a wonderful outlook she has. It's actually contagious because her attitude spoke to me, and now it's speaking to all of you reading this. I'm sure there are many of you going through difficult situations that you simply can't see the good in, but here again you have the choice to speak life, no matter what it is. As believer's, when we praise God and say that our steps are ordered by the Lord, and that all things work together for good to those that love God, we need to believe that in the good times and the bad.

I also believe that there are many people who shy away from being positive because they feel they are being unrealistic. There is a difference between being positive and being unrealistic, and it's important not to get out of balance with this. For example, if I have a cold and it's obvious that I am not well, I would look foolish if I said I wasn't sick. What I could say is that yes I am under the weather, but I believe that I will get better. Being positive doesn't mean that you are oblivious to reality, or that you don't feel the hurt, it's acknowledging the situation in its entirety and choosing to believe that you will be okay no matter the outcome. I would rather be positive and hope for the best, then negative and depressed over an outcome I don't even know of yet. Even if the result isn't what we want, let's not forget that we have a God who is bigger than anything we are facing today or will ever face in our lifetime, and He takes care of us. Let's choose to believe together that God's best is for us.

Have a great day everyone and remember to walk in love and speak in peace.



  1. Anita, yet another beautiful and true reading! I truly enjoy everything you write and touches me every time. I certainly can relate to this lady as I've been through what she is going through...a very difficult time but God brought me through it as He always does!

  2. thank you for sharing from your heart. I do belive there are many times we do not take time for others and miss many opportunitites for praying and sharing. Rhoda

  3. While I agree with some of your points, not everyone has the same amount of pain or difficulties in their life and I don't think it is for us to judge those who may not be able to speak of the positives. Just because someone is feeling depressed or negative right now does not mean that they always feel that way and it does not make then have less of a relationship with God or be less of a Christian. We don't have the right to judge and it feels like you have a less than christ like appreciation for people who don't live up to your expectations of positivity.

  4. Anita as always I enjoy reading your post and I "APPRECIATE" you taking the time to do what you do. I will say this "CONGRATULATIONS".... on your very first critic. American Author Elbert Hubbard said this
    " to avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, BE NOTHING. Anita, get prepared for a whole lot of criticism!
    Love ya!

  5. Anita - I have known you for over a decade now and I know that you are not saying that if some one is feeling depressed or negative that you do not mean that they are less of a christian.
    I got from your message that changing the way you THINK can change the way you feel about a situation, it may not change the situation but it can change the way you handle it.
    For me this is a daily struggle, its something I have to exercise everyday and through out the day sometimes, and thats ok!
    I live with chronic pain from Endometriosis,IBS,scar tissue/adhessions, painfull joints and of course menopause( severe)
    all when I was 27 y/o. I'm now almost 30 and on day's when I feel like WHY ME !! I say why not me !!! I feel a so at peace that when I find some one else that is going through what I go through and we conect and share our story's and then we both walk away knowing that we go through this and get to help others, awesome feeling.POSITIVE DAY !
    It funny because I could be having such a down day and then something happens in that day to lift me out of my funk like reading this post. :)
    Anita you know me for a long long time and we both know my rollercoaster ride through my life and not once have you judged me or walked away from me for not living life according to the bible. THANKS !!

  6. So what you're saying, is the whole wheels thing has nothing to with "Just my luck" at all. That motorcycle accident brought me closer to God, in a way i never thought possible. Everything is for the best, even when you think there's no way you can think positive, that's where God sits by your side waiting for you to realize His word is good, His word is TRUE, and He LOVES everyone with the best intentions.